Divorce can strain the relationship between parents and their children.
However, it’s important to remember that divorce and separation
is much harder for the kids to go through than it is for the parents.
If you want to keep your children’s worlds from turning upside down
after your divorce or separation, you will need to make extra efforts
to maintain your parent-child relationship. Young children with divorced
or separated parents tend to suppress their feelings, or sometimes have
emotional outbursts when things in their life start changing. In this
blog, we explain how keep your relationship with your children strong
divorce or separation.
#1. Keep Adult Issues Private
There are many different changes that children have to contend with after
your divorce or separation. From moving to new visitation schedules, your
children are under major stress, just like parents are often under stress
due to having less income now that they are a single household. Despite
your financial concerns, remember that your kids don’t always need
to know when you are struggling. Do your best to keep the things they
have no control over to yourself.
#2: Speak Kindly About Your Ex in Front of Your Kids
When children constantly have to hear their parents argue, it upsets them.
In fact, some children will blame themselves for their parents’
marriage disputes. This is why it is important to be friendly and kind
when you interact with your ex around your children. Avoid getting into
arguments with the other parent when exchanging
custody. Fighting in front of your children can also lead them to act out in other
areas of their life.
#3: Invite Your Children’s Friends to Activities & Events
Children will often talk to their friends about their parents’ divorce
and what emotions they are experiencing themselves. Your kid’s friends
are a major part of their support system, which is why you should invite
them along to go to places with your family. Whether it’s a trip
to an amusement park or just going to a movie, spending time with close
friends will help your kids become more comfortable with their new routine
#4: Spend As Much Time As You Can with Your Kids
When possible, don’t use a babysitter or a daycare to watch your
children, instead, try to spend more time with them. If you have an event
you need attend and it conflicts with the time your kids would normally
spend with you, try asking your ex-spouse to watch the kids rather than
having someone else do it. Having both parents involved when schedules
conflict can help strengthen post- divorce relationships between all members
of the family.
#5: Don’t Send Messages to Your Ex Through Your Kids
Never ask your kids to relay information to their other parent. Doing so
can cause unnecessary tension between the whole family. Remember, your
children aren’t’ messengers, if you have something important
that you need to tell you ex, let them know in person. Asking your kids
to relay messages between you and your ex can lead them to feel like they
need to pick sides, which only adds to the stress of adjusting to life
Talk to our Attorney Today
At the Law Office of Pamela C. Bratcher, we help families in Bowling Green
and surrounding areas resolve their divorce disputes. We can develop a
comprehensive legal strategy that will ensure your rights and interests
are fully protected. Let us put our skills and resources to work for you today.
Do you have more questions? Call (270) 977-8910 to
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